Have you ever made a list of must have qualities of red flags for potential partners? I have maintained my own list for years. But what if it’s really all about ME?Read more "What to Look for (& Offer) in Relationships"
Bottom line behaviors are those that violate your sobriety. Problematic behaviors are the red flags. Coping skills are how we make it through.Read more "How I Define My Sexual Sobriety"
Behavior Chain Analysis helps you make sense the events, thoughts, and feelings leading up a specific problematic behavior. Let’s begin…Read more "Chain Analysis: I Stalked My Ex"
I am looking forward to sobriety. SLAA promises us that sobriety will allow us to “regain control of our lives.” “We will no longer be plagued by an unceasing sense of longing.” Who wouldn’t want those things?
But when will I get there?
I look for intrigue everywhere and with everyone. So strong is my ability to project a fantasy of whatever I want from a person, that I can (and will) ignore all manner of red flags.Read more "How I Knew I Was a Sex and Love Junkie"
Am I a sex and love addict?
My drugs are sex and food. I have been treated for both bulimia and anorexia, but I never considered that my sexual relationships might actually be an addiction… until very recently.